Comments on: Do you have to get a bigger home once you have a kid?

By: Joe

Joe — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:09:59 +0000

The baby really needs no space until she starts crawling around. We survived fine in a large ONE bedroom apartment with our baby for a good 17 months and have just moved to a bigger townhouse a few weeks ago. Even though we now have three bedrooms, our baby still sleeps in our (gigantic) room and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

By: Courtney

Courtney — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 03:59:57 +0000

Cosleeping is the way to go. I could list all sorts of reasons, but my best one is: They tell you to never, ever leave your baby unattended – and then they tell you to abandon it in another room?

See also:
Mother Nature: Maternal Instincts and How They Shape the Human Species by Sarah Hrdy (*best science of motherhood book EVER!*)
What’s Going on in There? : How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First Five Years of Life by Lise Eliot
Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain by Sue Gerhardt
The Scientist in the Crib: What Early Learning Tells Us About the Mind by Alison Gopnik
Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent by Meredith Small
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
The Vital Touch: How Intimate Contact With Your Baby Leads To Happier, Healthier Development by Sharon Heller
From Neurons to Neighborhoods : The Science of Early Childhood Development by Committee on Integrating the Science of Early Childhood Development

By: Mark

Mark — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 04:59:49 +0000

Completely agreed with Ben!

By: FinanciallySmart

FinanciallySmart — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 19:49:35 +0000

I am in total agreement with you. There is no need to place oneself in financial strain to get a bigger space for a baby. Some new parents will follow the advice of others instead of looking at the reality of life.

I enjoyed reading your article.

By: Ben

Ben — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:06:52 +0000

Yes, it is good to keep baby’s crib in the same room with parents, in the first 6 months.
But after 6 months, you should consider moving her to a separate room.

Reason 1, the baby can generate different noise when sleeping. It would affect parents’ sleeping.
Reason 2, parents don’t have the same sleeping schedule with the baby. So it will be hard to do anything in the same room when the baby is sleeping.
Reason 3, even when the parents are sleeping, they can generate different noise to awake the baby…

When the baby is 6-month-old, she is developing “separation anxiety”, it will be difficult to move her out, when she doesn’t want to separate from parents.