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]]> By: StaciCarsten http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/10/15/is-wealth-detrimental-to-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-288 StaciCarsten Wed, 17 Oct 2007 23:03:12 +0000 http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/10/15/is-wealth-detrimental-to-marriages/#comment-288 That's interesting, but I don't think it's a cause. Though people who are very financially successful COULD be more likely to have the kinds of personality traits that make marriage difficult. There's not a whole lot of room for an ego in a happy marriage. That’s interesting, but I don’t think it’s a cause. Though people who are very financially successful COULD be more likely to have the kinds of personality traits that make marriage difficult. There’s not a whole lot of room for an ego in a happy marriage.

]]> By: Meg http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/10/15/is-wealth-detrimental-to-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-285 Meg Tue, 16 Oct 2007 22:14:04 +0000 http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/10/15/is-wealth-detrimental-to-marriages/#comment-285 First of all, I'm not sure a survey of people who weren't independently wealthy would have different findings. You don't have to be rich to cheat or to resent your spouse for holding you back financially. However I can understand how being wealthy--or being married to someone who's wealthy--could exacerbate marital discord. People who are wealthy (or becoming wealthy) tend to work a lot, prioritizing their business over most anything else. It's stereotypical but not inaccurate to imagine the abandoned non-working spouse, bored and neglected, turning to extra-marital affairs for attention, affection, etc. Rich, bored, and/or resentful spouses also like to spend money. In addition, working spouses might feel the need to "buy" their bored/resentful spouses off with expensive gifts and lavish vacations in order to make up for their absence, neglect, or whatever. Which only leads to more resentment and marital discord--and to spouses feeling like marriage holds them back financially. Besides, survey responses on whether marriage holds you back financially might be based on previous, expected, or third-party experiences with divorce--which we all know is bad for the finances of both spouses. First of all, I’m not sure a survey of people who weren’t independently wealthy would have different findings. You don’t have to be rich to cheat or to resent your spouse for holding you back financially.

However I can understand how being wealthy–or being married to someone who’s wealthy–could exacerbate marital discord. People who are wealthy (or becoming wealthy) tend to work a lot, prioritizing their business over most anything else. It’s stereotypical but not inaccurate to imagine the abandoned non-working spouse, bored and neglected, turning to extra-marital affairs for attention, affection, etc.

Rich, bored, and/or resentful spouses also like to spend money. In addition, working spouses might feel the need to “buy” their bored/resentful spouses off with expensive gifts and lavish vacations in order to make up for their absence, neglect, or whatever. Which only leads to more resentment and marital discord–and to spouses feeling like marriage holds them back financially.

Besides, survey responses on whether marriage holds you back financially might be based on previous, expected, or third-party experiences with divorce–which we all know is bad for the finances of both spouses.

]]> By: Aruni http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/10/15/is-wealth-detrimental-to-marriages/comment-page-1/#comment-284 Aruni Tue, 16 Oct 2007 15:09:06 +0000 http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/10/15/is-wealth-detrimental-to-marriages/#comment-284 Fascinating post. I never really thought about this, but I guess considering how often celebrities and the likes get divorced this makes sense. We are still far from being wealthy and I hope it doesn't ruin our marriage. Fascinating post. I never really thought about this, but I guess considering how often celebrities and the likes get divorced this makes sense.

We are still far from being wealthy and I hope it doesn’t ruin our marriage.

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