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Just to make clear, its not that I wish he’d buy me a necklace or anything– I just wish I felt less like he was trying to get free food out of me. But who knows– maybe thats OK– and maybe if I don’t let this go now, I’ll eventually become someone wishing they had a diamond buying boyfriend or something like that. I don’t know.
Anyway, I’m sorry for rambling on for so long but just had to get this out– I’m too embarrassed to talk about it with anyone in person. I would SO much appreciate any advice.

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