<%3Fxml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"%3F> Best place to buy viagra online uk » Best Buy Viagra Online / canadian pharmacy! http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/09/14/have-you-experienced-the-mommy-wars/ Attempts at a Sustainable Lifestyle... Thu, 04 Aug 2011 01:25:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Best place to buy viagra online uk » Best Buy Viagra Online / canadian pharmacy! http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/09/14/have-you-experienced-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2522 Saira Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:54:41 +0000 http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/09/14/have-you-experienced-the-mommy-wars/#comment-2522 The thing that annoys me about the "Mommy Wars" is that both sides seem to think they know what's best for the other. Individual women have different personalities, and their families have different needs. When these women are calling one another's lives and decision "sad," what they're really saying is, "Everyone else is secretly like me and my family." I think that's incredibly arrogant (and ignorant) on their part. The thing that annoys me about the “Mommy Wars” is that both sides seem to think they know what’s best for the other. Individual women have different personalities, and their families have different needs. When these women are calling one another’s lives and decision “sad,” what they’re really saying is, “Everyone else is secretly like me and my family.” I think that’s incredibly arrogant (and ignorant) on their part.

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I think the mommy wars present an interesting dilemma for money-related bloggers. On the one hand, I noticed that many preach frugality and say it’s better to rely on one income (usually dad works; mom stays home and becomes an excellent coupon clipper). On the other hand, money bloggers preach the benefits of investing at a young age and the value of compounding interest. In other words, if a woman did not drop out of the work force, she will probably save more money just because her money will have more time to increase. So which is it?
It’s not a decision to be made solely on finances of course. I just know that my mom ‘had’ to work and my siblings and I really think she is the best mother in the world even if she was a SAHM.

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Best place to buy viagra online uk » Best Buy Viagra Online / canadian pharmacy! http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/09/14/have-you-experienced-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-180 Dawn Sat, 29 Sep 2007 22:40:51 +0000 http://baglady.dreamhosters.com/2007/09/14/have-you-experienced-the-mommy-wars/#comment-180 //I think women don’t think about the earning potential they are giving up, not to mention the freedom, sense of purpose/identity, and intellectual stimulation you get from a career. They simply think of what’s best for the child NOW.// That might be true to some but I think it might be underestimating how much some of us SAHMs weigh our choices. In my case it wasn't about what was best for my child when I made the decision but how having a parent at home in our situation would benefit our children in the long term. Notice I said, "in our situation." :) I acknowledge that it's very different for many other women. We were a low income family but my salary, as small as it was despite working almost full-time, was eaten up in expenses related to work. Aside from money other considerations were a chaotic schedule for my daughter (when you're low income there's a greater chance you're working awful and unstable shifts) and no one on the homefront looking after cleaning, meals, budgets, etc. Add to that the decision we made to homeschool our kids and being a SAHM became my role. I would definitely agree with the idea that in can be intelecctually deadly. However, that is within a mom's control. It took me awhile to figure that out though. Now however I take a history/religion/philosophy course, sing in a choir, research interests on the internet...Lots of stuff to keep boredom at bay. And my kids are getting older and more interesting. Surprisingly I've also found that in the role of homemaker I've become more confident, free and have a firmer sense of myself then I ever had before. One thing I've wondered though, how much the way modern families are often isolated from relatives can play into the stresses of both working outside the home or being a housewife. I've probably had an easier go in part because I have a lot of family around me and so a lot of support. Regardless, good discussion. I hate the ''Mommy war'' label myself and would much rather figure out how we could help each other in the roles we choose. //I think women don’t think about the earning potential they are giving up, not to mention the freedom, sense of purpose/identity, and intellectual stimulation you get from a career. They simply think of what’s best for the child NOW.//

That might be true to some but I think it might be underestimating how much some of us SAHMs weigh our choices. In my case it wasn’t about what was best for my child when I made the decision but how having a parent at home in our situation would benefit our children in the long term.

Notice I said, “in our situation.” :) I acknowledge that it’s very different for many other women.

We were a low income family but my salary, as small as it was despite working almost full-time, was eaten up in expenses related to work. Aside from money other considerations were a chaotic schedule for my daughter (when you’re low income there’s a greater chance you’re working awful and unstable shifts) and no one on the homefront looking after cleaning, meals, budgets, etc.

Add to that the decision we made to homeschool our kids and being a SAHM became my role.

I would definitely agree with the idea that in can be intelecctually deadly. However, that is within a mom’s control. It took me awhile to figure that out though. Now however I take a history/religion/philosophy course, sing in a choir, research interests on the internet…Lots of stuff to keep boredom at bay. And my kids are getting older and more interesting. Surprisingly I’ve also found that in the role of homemaker I’ve become more confident, free and have a firmer sense of myself then I ever had before.

One thing I’ve wondered though, how much the way modern families are often isolated from relatives can play into the stresses of both working outside the home or being a housewife. I’ve probably had an easier go in part because I have a lot of family around me and so a lot of support.

Regardless, good discussion. I hate the ”Mommy war” label myself and would much rather figure out how we could help each other in the roles we choose.

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